~ Solehah, Abang Mad & The Broken USB Modem ~Solehah accidentally broke his abang Mad's usb modem yesterday. Although looked angry, abang Mad comforted Solehah by saying that it was not her fault. How abang Mad reacted remind Solehah's dad of the '90/10 Principle' by Stephen Covey. It was emailed to him by a friend (once again from Mr. TA) a few day ago.
Here's the details of the principle (a little editing was made):
Discover the 90/10 Principle & it will change our life (or at least, the way we react to situations). 10% of life is made up of what happens to us, while the other 90% is decided by how we react. What does this mean?
We really have NO control over 10% of what happens. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in the traffic. We have NO control. The other 90% is different. We determine them. How? By our reaction. We cannot control a red light. However, we can control our reaction. Do not let people fool us. We can control how we react. Let us use an example:
Your daughter accidentally knocks over a cup of coffee onto your shirt. You have no control over what has just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife & you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm into your bedroom & change your shirt. Back to the dinning room, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast & getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car & drive your daughter to school.
Discover the 90/10 Principle & it will change our life (or at least, the way we react to situations). 10% of life is made up of what happens to us, while the other 90% is decided by how we react. What does this mean?
We really have NO control over 10% of what happens. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in the traffic. We have NO control. The other 90% is different. We determine them. How? By our reaction. We cannot control a red light. However, we can control our reaction. Do not let people fool us. We can control how we react. Let us use an example:
Your daughter accidentally knocks over a cup of coffee onto your shirt. You have no control over what has just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife & you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm into your bedroom & change your shirt. Back to the dinning room, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast & getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car & drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you exceed the speed limit. After a 15-minute delay & throwing the traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minute late, You realize you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse & worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife & daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? (A) Did the coffee cause it?; (B) Did your daughter cause it?; (C) Did the policeman cause it?; or (D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D”. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have & should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s okay honey, you just need to be more careful next time.” Grabbing a towel you go to your bedroom & change your shirt. You grab your briefcase & you come back in time to see your daughter getting on the bus. She turns & waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same but it ended different. Why? Because of how you reacted. You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comments affect you. React properly & it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, or getting stressed out.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 Principle & don’t worry about it.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse & worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife & daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? (A) Did the coffee cause it?; (B) Did your daughter cause it?; (C) Did the policeman cause it?; or (D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D”. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have & should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s okay honey, you just need to be more careful next time.” Grabbing a towel you go to your bedroom & change your shirt. You grab your briefcase & you come back in time to see your daughter getting on the bus. She turns & waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same but it ended different. Why? Because of how you reacted. You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comments affect you. React properly & it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, or getting stressed out.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 Principle & don’t worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time to find a new job. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90/10 Principle. Apply it & you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90/10 Principle is incredible. Very few know & apply it. The result? You will see it by yourself!
Millions are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems & headaches. We all must understand the principle. It can change your life! Enjoy it. It only takes willpower to give ourselves permission to make the experience.
Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it’s like a boomerang. It will come back to us. If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first. Maybe we will end with our hands empty, but our heart will be filled with love. And those who love life, have that feeling marked in their hearts.
Now you know the 90/10 Principle. Apply it & you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90/10 Principle is incredible. Very few know & apply it. The result? You will see it by yourself!
Millions are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems & headaches. We all must understand the principle. It can change your life! Enjoy it. It only takes willpower to give ourselves permission to make the experience.
Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it’s like a boomerang. It will come back to us. If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first. Maybe we will end with our hands empty, but our heart will be filled with love. And those who love life, have that feeling marked in their hearts.
Catatan:
Abang Mad celebrated his 24th. birthday last Saturday (18/09/10). Happy birthday abang Mad.
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